One other good thing that came out of my Dad’s death was the opportunity to see my cousin Terri, the daughter of my mother’s sister (also now passed). It was great to see her. I also met her husband Kenny, and my 2nd cousin Bradley.
I should also mention that my friend Ralph came out with Debby and I for moral support and to help deal with the “stuff” in my Dad’s condo. It is overwhelming to sort through someone else’s life, and determine what to keep and what to sell and what to toss. My friend Martin also came down for moral support… My sister Debby also had several friends drop in. It is all appreciated very much.
Thankfully, my Dad had a will, which makes some things a little easier, but the best advice I can give anyone, especially those of you with children, children or anyone who may become executor of your estate, be sure to have your affairs in order. I know it is difficult to think about, but as they say, the only thing certain in life is death and taxes. If you don’t have a will, get one. NOW. Make sure the beneficiary information on ALL your accounts, bank accounts, life insurance policies, IRAs, etc are up-to-date. My mother, who passed away in 1978 is still listed as beneficiary on several policies, which really slows things down in settling the estate and paying for things that need to be paid for. (finerals are expensive)
NOLO is a good place to start. Know the laws in your state, and plan accordingly.